I tweeted something yesterday that made oomf (I now know
that means “one of my followers” lol) bring up a very good point. I said, “Isn’t
the south supposed to be the home of the gentlemen? I guess they all moved.” He
said that women aren’t looking for that anymore. Sad but true. Women have
lowered their standards and as a result, these men or boys…let’s just say males,
see no point in doing the extra. Extra as in being respectful, loyal, faithful,
and so on. I’ve touched on that before so I’m not going in on that now.
There are men out there that are good. Gentlemen still do
exist but we don’t see them because we as females spend all our time trying to
change a dog into a man. It’s not possible and time shouldn’t be wasted on
doing so. Contrary to popular belief, it doesn’t matter how good the pussy is. If
a man isn’t ready to settle down…he’s not going to. If a man isn’t ready to be
faithful and focus on one woman…he’s not going to. If a man isn’t ready to
trust or believe there are good women out there…he’s not going to, period. Now I’m
not saying you can’t be the inspiration behind a changed man or that you can’t
be that last push he needed over the edge because that is very possible. But
don’t think his changes are completely based on you.
I woke up from a
nap, went to my phone to check twitter, and the first thing I see is a tweet
from a guy I used to talk to… a guy I really liked at one point actually. It
said “there are NO BITCHES at my school, smh” another tweet said “I will share
any girl except my main.” There was one other ignorant tweet but I can’t
remember what it said. Now at first I was like wow, I really dodged a bullet
with this guy, I thought I knew him. Then I realized I DID know him. Which is
why what we had never amounted to anything. I knew he wasn’t going to be
faithful, I knew he wasn’t going to trust me, and I sure as hell knew I was just
another “bitch” in his contacts. A part of a team. That’s why I walked away,
removed him from my life. He truly does have potential to be a good guy, I saw
that in him too…but am I going to sit here and spend all my time and energy
trying to bring that out of him? Hell naw! He is not ready to be that man and it
doesn’t matter what I do, or how good I am to him…he won’t change until he is
ready. Now some women have that “oh if I stick around long enough, something
will change eventually” mentality. Which may be true, but why sit waiting for
this man to change when there are plenty of men out there who have already gone
through these changes? Men who have grown up into the mature, respectful, loving
men they are supposed to be and now they’re just waiting on a good woman to
treat right. But here you are stuck on this fool that you that you think you
can change. I’m sorry but I have no time or patience for that. You not ready to
be “tied down”, “Smash, no cuffin” and all that good stuff, that’s great! Do
you! Just don’t expect me to be in your life while you doing it. Women…up your
standards. No need for long ass lists but…can we at least not settle for a part
of the team over being the one and only? Can we at least not be okay with being
called bitches? Can we at least know what we’re worth?
“Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far
above rubies.” (Proverbs 31:10)
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